This evening I have again one of my favorite meals on my desk:

#Tortelloni from a local supermarket which has spinach inside and a spicy tomato-cream, easily done: Tomato mark/paste, water, salt, black pepper spice, paprika spice, some red-chilli spice and basilica spice. Mix all together so it will become creamy!

Enjoy your meal!

I'm done with that nonsense of bashing this and that:

• No #boobs-bashing, every adult #boobs are beautiful!
• No #pussy-bashing, every adult #pussy is beautiful!
• No #penis-bashing, every adult #penis is beautiful!
• No #browser-bashing, every #browser brings you into the Internet!
• No #car-bashing, every #car brings you from A to B.

I'm really done with that. I saw it on #GirlsAskGuys again. I could continue on the list. Feel free to add more.

About 2 weeks ago I uploaded a video about my free opinion about the #LGBTQ community. I said it there clearly, in reference to a question on #girlsaskguys that I only support them as far as human rights goes. Surely I also mean local rights for everybody has.

So why should I support any further rights than already given (in Germany at least, where I live). I don't live in an other country where rights are restricted to only straight couples and I found that NOT right but again: Why should I support their rights while I'm straight?

Sure my video came out of a mood caused by the GaG community (there are a lot a hating people heating up discussions and I blocked there many of those, insulting me and my girlfriend (accusation of "old-man-fetish" to her and that I cannot satisfy my girlfriend sexually when I'm getting older or that I'm feminine when I show emotions to her).

I sent them (peertube.social team) a video message (they never downloaded it) and now I got this back:

Hi,

Your ban is final, you can apologize, beg or call us snowflakes as much as you want, we will not change our decision. I will not read any more of your messages.

XXX

My email to them follows:

Dear PeerTube.social team,

I like to know which clip (of my last 2) have been found homophobic because I'm not hating any kind of genders. And I would like to address you to a series of videos where I'm stating it very clearly. If LGBTQ people cannot (especially LGT) cannot handle the truth, that their DNA will die with them, it says they are insecure about themselves and need to first familiarize with being a LGT. Sure, simply most don't care but I have a right to say my opinion about it, what it really means to be LGT (no own descendants together).

Or did you find it homophobic when I just add some fun (didn't notice me laughing?) in it by repeating what Al Bundy said his entrance door when a gay ringed the bell? Am I really not allowed to add some fun to it by quoting comedians? Did they feel butt-hurted when they watched it? This is generally a problem today, I guess, that "Political Correctness" is at least trying to establish itself as a norm. Sure we had PC before and fat/gender-shaming was also not right there but in comedy it is okay.

Sure, I'm not a comedian but still I am allowed to make some funny quotes such as those from the character Al Bundy.

If that is really a problem here, then sorry you are snowflakes and I have to move on and publish them somewhere else.

Best regards,
Roland Haeder

Sure, I respect it that they have storage limits and that it is their instance but at least hear me out! I'm not homophobic when I just don't support special rights for about 4.5-5% of whole population. It is their thing what they do in the bedroom and I said it there very clearly.

I guess people cannot accept other's opinions when it doesn't fit their agenda.

I'm for a 3rd time with a foreigner woman into a long-distant relationship. The first 2 ended both in a marriage and both ended in divorce due to interference/confluence from my parents and some friends (also one's religion caused interference). The first two were from #Philippines while the third is from #Kenya and I dated her on #OkCupid first.

There I noticed a few things. The first thing you might come across in such relationships is #trust , which is actually a key for any serious/close relationships and and second is #communication . The third one is maybe only typical for distant relationships which is patience. It might become an issue when trust is low because you simply cannot look there 24/7 what is happening there but sure the same with physical relationships, like having your love-partner next to you and when you go to work you need trust in him/her.

Patience plays a very important role with distant relationships because simply maybe of different time-zones (Germany/Philippines is 6-7 hours distant, while Kenya is 2 hours away from Germany, both in advance). So you need to wait/sleep longer until your distant partner is waking up again. But yet still you might not be able to talk to him/her.

For my Kenyan girlfriend, she lives a humble life in a village and needs to bring her smartphone to a charging station where then I have to wait for finishing loading. First it was not so easy and also because of Internet is very "broken" (disconnects very often) there. So it wasn't that easy to trust that she is not "ghosting" me, actually the network has disconnected her again due to weak connectivity.

I then found myself often wondering, why she is suddenly not replying and I become feeling worried about it. But I later learned that everything was okay and now it is no longer an issue to me.

Yet still we both have a (currently) separate life, like she needs to help her mother out with their farm while I (now) have a work that keeps me away from home for a longer time. In the evening we both find again some time together where I devote a lot time (highest priority) into chatting and talking with her over the Internet (#Linphone ). Also #Nextcloud comes very handy here because we can securely exchange pictures about many things.

So to summon up, my experiences are good into #LDR with foreigners from so-called "third-world or developing countries". Sure I need to be cautious due to gold-digging habits but so far she didn't gave me that kind of feeling and she keeps her relationship low-profile to her parents (as many questions may come, including financial) and so I keep her away from my parents as they may start interfering with our early relationship. We might trust each other but I currently have revoked #trust into my mother with my relationships as she has messed up my previous relationships with messages on #Whatsapp and #SMS to my previous wives (sent behind my back about myself in the out-dated view of my mother).

I won't repeat that mistake I made so now I talked openly to my girlfriend about the "problems" or "issues" I have with my parents (that they are complicated and #asexual and begged at me for my then-girlfriend's phone number). I cannot sleep well when I know my mother can send messages behind my back to my distant girlfriend and even when she is here. That trust to her (my mother) is currently fully revoked and may not be restored in the near future.

So that is what you have to watch out when it comes to relationships in distance: a lot trust, very good and open communication and a lot patience that he/she has a currently more important matter to attend to and that is his/her currently separated own life. And surely every outside influence may cause more trouble when you don't have built up much trust into each other! I still trust my mother generally, but not into my relationships. I want to let more time (years) pass until that will be restored. For now, I may allow a "proxified" communication between them (mother/girlfriend) so I can directly control and monitor which messages are going out and which not (to each other). Yet still I may not allow my mother directly communicating with my girlfriend so quickly again for the fear of loosing my relationship again.

Also remember to maintain some kind of distant intimacy with your love-partner like sharing pictures (again trust is needed to do that) as this gives you some kind of distant-feeling of being intimate with your partner.

My parents may have helped me financially out but that does never give them permission to influence and mix themselves into my relationship, never! And this is what you (being poor) have to make clear to your "helping" relatives as well, financial help is fine but interfering with your relationship (to your love-partner) is never fine.

According to a statistics done by German #Aerzteblatt only 51% of all German males are into giving oral sex (#Cunnilingus for straight and #Fellatio for gay/bisexual accumulated) while 56% are into receiving (#blowjob ) it. While for females it is even a little lesser, 48% are into receiving it while 45% are into giving it. As it seems, also lesbians are counted in here, but are a minor compared to straight females.

The actual graphs and tables can be found here:
So far I can tell that there is no "disgusting" or "unhealthy" thing on giving Cunnilingus (in English, licking #pussy ) simply because I have done it a lot on many different women and so far no tongue or throat #cancer has happened to me. And yes, beside that, there is no "fish shop" down there for me.

I like to ask the whole #Fediverse about this matter. Is that true with you? Disclaimer: Do not come up with some religious-nonsense or other hatred/disapproving/other nonsense here. I'm asking for a Yes or a No and if so, please more details (being passive/active).

See this figure:

$ git log | grep "Author: "|grep -i roland --count
658
$

Hypolite: 3569
Heleucht: 6145

Only to name two here in the fediverse. There are surely much more.

I'm getting this error message when I click on the lock icon:

Notice: Undefined index: contact-id in /var/www/../addon/remote_permissions/remote_permissions.php on line 77

Bin heute selbst solch einem zum Opfer gefallen. 250,- sind ade ... War ein kleinerer Mann mit Sonnenbrille, tat so also ob er mit ihr telefonieren wuerde, die junge Dame selbst ist nie erschienen. Ganze 2 Stunden habe ich vergebens gewartet.

So, und nun kein Mitleid mit mir, sondern lernt draus!

Einfach #asozial , einem Erwerbslosen um 250,- zu erleichtern.