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Cunnilingus and Fellatio, a dying "specicies"?

According to a statistics done by German # only 51% of all German males are into giving oral sex (# for straight and # for gay/bisexual accumulated) while 56% are into receiving (# ) it. While for females it is even a little lesser, 48% are into receiving it while 45% are into giving it. As it seems, also lesbians are counted in here, but are a minor compared to straight females.

The actual graphs and tables can be found here: So far I can tell that there is no "disgusting" or "unhealthy" thing on giving Cunnilingus (in English, licking # ) simply because I have done it a lot on many different women and so far no tongue or throat # has happened to me. :-p And yes, beside that, there is no "fish shop" down there for me. :-)

I like to ask the whole # about this matter. Is that true with you? Disclaimer: Do not come up with some religious-nonsense or other hatred/disapproving/other nonsense here. I'm asking for a Yes or a No and if so, please more details (being passive/active).

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Any listening group/forum out there?

I wonder if there is any !listening group/forum out there? Because the old one seems to be closed down. Please re-share if you don't know!

T-Shirt bought a few weeks ago

I have now decided to picture myself (and I currently still wear it) with a # I have bough a few weeks ago from # shop:

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Hypolite Petovan friendica (via ActivityPub)
"polarizing", 'feminazi", "if you control language, you control thought", I feel like I'm talking with a centre-right propaganda video through you and I couldn't care less about these provocative and wrong talking points.

So I'm going to leave a few parting words before bowing out:
  • The specific idea developed in Georges Orwell's 1984 that controlling language is controlling thought is utterly wrong. Language is what people are making of it, and thought is otherwise influenced by a number of other things, like power dynamics, feelings and culture, language probably being pretty low on the list. We come up with words to describe novel thoughts all the time, so language hardly constraints thought.
  • Feminism is explicitly about "respect [ing]women, want [ing]to have oppression stopped and equality for them". Any additional meaning you tacked on that word shows your thoughts about feminism have been negatively influenced by something or someone else. Your denial of being a feminist sounds like someone saying "I eat meat but I'm not a carnivore because it's too polarizing".
  • Nobody is actually forcing you to use gender-neutral language, recognize foreplay as sexist, or not wear your provocative shirts. However if you feel bad because this kind of ideas are just floating around, then you probably have some internal reckoning to do.
  • Whatever you do with other people and with women specifically is fine and your own business as long as boundaries have been clearly set.
Feminazi is an alias for the more extreme/radical offshoot of feminism. I know very well that it (feminism) is about stopping oppression and wanting equality for males. I still don't want to be labeled or categorized as feminist only because of I respect women and want equality for all humans and oppression all together.

I don't want to have female oppression, I don't want to have male oppression, any one of not being heterosexual shall also not be oppressed. This is what I want and that goes far beyond only being against oppression of woman (which is good but still not enough). Let's end oppression all together!

Polarized thinking is like this: If you are not for (positive) feminism, you must be a woman-hater. This is thinking in two colors, binary states while life is never binary or black/white or red/green.

Yes, my T-Shirt may provoke some people, That is fine, at least they talk and think about the topic at hand: # Which is is so important to nearly all women. I have been to a sexual consultant and she (not he) said it, that most women want it, they can relax, be themselves, enjoy the pleasure given to then. Exactly that is what I love so much about it. :-)
Ha ha! Nice # females of course!
#tpzo
Hypolite Petovan friendica (via ActivityPub)
I know what "feminazi" stands for, I still thinks it's inappropriate to use that term.

I'll use my comparison with food diet again: you are saying you are an omnivore, and you don't like to be called a carnivore. But you eat meat, which constitutes being a carnivore. You don't eat only meat, granted, but "carnivore" is still more accurate to describe what you're doing than "not being a carnivore".

Being a feminist doesn't mean you aren't also anti-racist and LGBT-friendly. But explicitly "not being a feminist" has a special negative meaning that doesn't even approach what you are describing about being against all oppressions. Just take the label, it accurately describes a part of what you claim to stand for, and it will occur less confusion than rejecting it altogether.
I still don't want to be labeled or categorized. This is what social therapists warn about, that humans start to categorize other humans. Just be a human. And I'm ~80% # and ~20% # because I mostly eat vegetarian and very less vegan (still I like vegan a lot). But I stopped eating meat. I could eat it by just entering a Kebab shop and order myself one. But I don't want it. :-)
Hypolite Petovan friendica (via ActivityPub)
It's fine if you don't want to be labeled or categorized but you can't prevent other people from doing so. Categorization isn't inherently bad, it's what people do with it that can be bad. But then it isn't categorization anymore, it's discrimination.
Yes, true. And discrimination goes in both directions. I think I bring back the first T-Shirt and pullover at some point and let them criticize me as much as they want. Just as I said, at least they talk and think about it. :-) Mission accomplished!
Hypolite Petovan friendica (via ActivityPub)
Here you go!
Then how should we call a # instead? Real feminists are clearly against that those people are being called feminists, too. So 3rd-wave-feminists? Or man-hating-lesbians? Well, not all really hate men and not all are lesbians despite being both at the same time.

So how should we call them then? Okay, cellular entities. ;-)
Hypolite Petovan friendica (via ActivityPub)
Just don't call them anything. Please follow your own desire not to be labeled or categorized and extend this courtesy to other people.

OpenStreetMap

Freitag, nach Feierabend habe ich angefangen, in #Viersen Gebaeude, Parkplaetze usw. mit #StreetComplete zu taggen. Gestern nachmittag ging es dann weiter. Fuer heute nachmittag plane ich auch erneut dort zu sein.

Dabei habe ich auch Fotos gemacht, damit es nachvollziehbar ist. :-)

Das Ergebnis: 700 Sterne bei StreetComplete, 2 Underhosen, 2 Unterhemden, 2 T-Shirts komplett durchgeschwitzt und eine Hose zum Teil. :-)

Achso, meine Aenderungen gibt es hier:
Die Marke von 3000 Punkten (?) Ist bei #StreetComplete heute Abend durchbrochen. :-)
Schon laenger her, dass ich hier etwas geschrieben habe. Es ging bereits fuer mich weiter in #Krefeld mit #OpenStreetMap und ich habe einiges an "Punkten" gesammelt, also viel erledigt.
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