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Cunnilingus and Fellatio, a dying "specicies"?

According to a statistics done by German # only 51% of all German males are into giving oral sex (# for straight and # for gay/bisexual accumulated) while 56% are into receiving (# ) it. While for females it is even a little lesser, 48% are into receiving it while 45% are into giving it. As it seems, also lesbians are counted in here, but are a minor compared to straight females.

The actual graphs and tables can be found here: So far I can tell that there is no "disgusting" or "unhealthy" thing on giving Cunnilingus (in English, licking # ) simply because I have done it a lot on many different women and so far no tongue or throat # has happened to me. :-p And yes, beside that, there is no "fish shop" down there for me. :-)

I like to ask the whole # about this matter. Is that true with you? Disclaimer: Do not come up with some religious-nonsense or other hatred/disapproving/other nonsense here. I'm asking for a Yes or a No and if so, please more details (being passive/active).

Why and how a long-distant relationship may actually work

I'm for a 3rd time with a foreigner woman into a long-distant relationship. The first 2 ended both in a marriage and both ended in divorce due to interference/confluence from my parents and some friends (also one's religion caused interference). The first two were from # while the third is from # and I dated her on # first.

There I noticed a few things. The first thing you might come across in such relationships is # , which is actually a key for any serious/close relationships and and second is # . The third one is maybe only typical for distant relationships which is patience. It might become an issue when trust is low because you simply cannot look there 24/7 what is happening there but sure the same with physical relationships, like having your love-partner next to you and when you go to work you need trust in him/her.

Patience plays a very important role with distant relationships because simply maybe of different time-zones (Germany/Philippines is 6-7 hours distant, while Kenya is 2 hours away from Germany, both in advance). So you need to wait/sleep longer until your distant partner is waking up again. But yet still you might not be able to talk to him/her.

For my Kenyan girlfriend, she lives a humble life in a village and needs to bring her smartphone to a charging station where then I have to wait for finishing loading. First it was not so easy and also because of Internet is very "broken" (disconnects very often) there. So it wasn't that easy to trust that she is not "ghosting" me, actually the network has disconnected her again due to weak connectivity.

I then found myself often wondering, why she is suddenly not replying and I become feeling worried about it. But I later learned that everything was okay and now it is no longer an issue to me.

Yet still we both have a (currently) separate life, like she needs to help her mother out with their farm while I (now) have a work that keeps me away from home for a longer time. In the evening we both find again some time together where I devote a lot time (highest priority) into chatting and talking with her over the Internet (# ). Also # comes very handy here because we can securely exchange pictures about many things.

So to summon up, my experiences are good into # with foreigners from so-called "third-world or developing countries". Sure I need to be cautious due to gold-digging habits but so far she didn't gave me that kind of feeling and she keeps her relationship low-profile to her parents (as many questions may come, including financial) and so I keep her away from my parents as they may start interfering with our early relationship. We might trust each other but I currently have revoked # into my mother with my relationships as she has messed up my previous relationships with messages on # and # to my previous wives (sent behind my back about myself in the out-dated view of my mother).

I won't repeat that mistake I made so now I talked openly to my girlfriend about the "problems" or "issues" I have with my parents (that they are complicated and # and begged at me for my then-girlfriend's phone number). I cannot sleep well when I know my mother can send messages behind my back to my distant girlfriend and even when she is here. That trust to her (my mother) is currently fully revoked and may not be restored in the near future.

So that is what you have to watch out when it comes to relationships in distance: a lot trust, very good and open communication and a lot patience that he/she has a currently more important matter to attend to and that is his/her currently separated own life. And surely every outside influence may cause more trouble when you don't have built up much trust into each other! I still trust my mother generally, but not into my relationships. I want to let more time (years) pass until that will be restored. For now, I may allow a "proxified" communication between them (mother/girlfriend) so I can directly control and monitor which messages are going out and which not (to each other). Yet still I may not allow my mother directly communicating with my girlfriend so quickly again for the fear of loosing my relationship again.

Also remember to maintain some kind of distant intimacy with your love-partner like sharing pictures (again trust is needed to do that) as this gives you some kind of distant-feeling of being intimate with your partner.

My parents may have helped me financially out but that does never give them permission to influence and mix themselves into my relationship, never! And this is what you (being poor) have to make clear to your "helping" relatives as well, financial help is fine but interfering with your relationship (to your love-partner) is never fine.
Hypolite Petovan friendica (AP)
Sorry about your parents' intrusion in your relationships.
@Hypolite Petovan To late for my relationship with my last wife. If she is happy with him, it is okay. Still I want to see my daughter for some time and that is currently not regulated.

S9 Antminer's root password "admin" - change immediately!!!

I now own a #S9 #Antminer from #Bitmain for some weeks (already). It runs really loud and I turn it only on when I'm out of house or want to have it running. It has a nice web interface and even #SSH with root (some #Linux embeded system). I setup quickly everthing and mining #Peercoins is working as expected (I run it in eco-mode). But what I later found out is that the SSH root password is simply "admin" which is a well-known password.

So here is my advice: If you intend to buy and run it (locally or on public Internet) please *do change* your SSH password! If you fail to do so, somebody might be able to change your pool login data and then he is receiving the coins you want to mine on your electricity bill! And I'm sure that he will then change root password to his own so you have to (somehow?) flush the memory to have factory-default settings (including password, I hope) back.

Here are some pictures of my miner, including screenshots which is just below my computer table (and it can be very noisy): #Nextcloud

Stuck together glass in porcelain

I currently have a glass stuck in a porcelain. I have already setup cold water in top glass and hot (boiling, I'm careful) around lower but still they remain stuck. Plus I added salt in upper (cold) glass. I got this (last) idea from a #youtube video with ID #HOglOnne3As which seems quite straight-forward but still no success here.

Any ideas? I cannot currently upload images, size limit of 780k exceeded but I set $a->config['system']['maximagesize'] = 2*1024*1024; which should be enough, right?

Strange #bug in #Friendica ... So you have to live with a link to my #nextcloud instance: https://cloud.mxchange.org/s/rnFtrpbQqAXx8O1
It is finally separated, luck with us. :-)
@Steffen K9 ???? das mit dem Hammer brauche ich zum Glueck nicht. Die Glaeser sind gluecklich voneinander getrennt. ;-)

New reborn space station in Starmade

I'm currently playing #Starmade which you can run on your own Windows/Linux/MacOS box and as an own server instance (also LAN-only is possible).

Here are some screenshots from my work (in-progress): #nextcloud
The thing was, with an update of the game, the station was no longer loaded and I saw error messages in the server.log file. So I decided to remove "server-database" entirely.
In that large shipyard, even the #Rockwell can dock and being repaired or constructed. I have added enough cargo space for it being able to be constructed quick enough.

Friendica + WebDAV/$API = Nextcloud-Ready?

What do you think?, especially those @Friendica Developers ? Is it possible to rewrite #Friendica to have some "wrapper class" for storing pictures/movies locally (default) or remotely on a #WebDAV share like with Nextcloud?

Or does #Nextcloud have an other API for file storage/retrieval than WebDAV? Would be cool to not have pictures stored on so many places. Sure you need then a "WebDAV browser" where you can easily select your files you want to link here (including music files and videos, of course).
Abstracting storing files, like:

- LocaStorage (stores files on local directory
- WebDavStorage (stores files on any WebDAV, let's make a simple WUI here for NextCloud/OwnCloud configuration to encourage people using it)
- SftpStorage (stores files over an SFTP link)
- FooStorage (stores files the foo-way)

And many more. So how to procede?
If one has a path for storage, you can let the OS figure out what it is.

eg, Friendica looks in a directory called /storage

This can literally be a directory called /storage...or you can add an fstab entry to add an arbitrary type of remote file system mounted at /storage.
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