"Wake women destroy relationships due to too high expectations": https://invidio.us/watch?v=J_5rThZj1Is

@otto That article is awesome! My girlfriend is a #Black (#African) woman and she says that both is okay to say to her. I guess she will feel it as an #insult if I call her "woman of color" (isn't "White" a color, too?) as I'm a man of color then, too. But no, I'm White. Actually my skin tone is light-pink and very light-brown (typed ocar?) with not really white parts on my skin (that would be skin cancer!)

Of course, we are all humans and shouldn't worry about skin color/tone e.g. during any moment (worrying about someone else' skin tone would be racistic, right?)

And yeah, you cannot say #cripple to someone anymore. Or about genitals? Dick (#dirty-talk), cock (degrading), #penis, willy, willie, pecker, whanger or - OMG - phallus? Or how about the female genitals: #pussy (dirty-talk but as an adjective, pretty bad: purulent), vagina (double meaning with a weapon holder), cunt (very degrading but no double meaning), mimsy, pooh, hair pie, love tunnel, front bottom, pie, mut, chocha, koochie and only to name "some" (I found them all on #dictcc). I don't know much the others and their level of respect or disrespect towards the genitals but sure those I explained I know.

So what do we want to go with? Or how about: boobs, breasts, tits? In general speaking, I use penis, vagina and breasts or in public not at all. But one-on-one, like with my girlfriend, I can call them whatever they want to be called (or her genitals), I respect that, too. And my girlfriend respects the words she can call me or my genitals, too.

Most people laugh a lot when George Carlin talks about such cultural issues the U.S. has (and partly in Germany, too). I don't, I listen carefully and I have to as I'm a German. Or how about victim-shaming? We don't want that, right? That's not fair. A rape victim is a victim of a sexual crime, period.

Or if a woman even wears #sexy #lingerie in public, no wonder we heterosexual men look at her! Or how about a young girl (I saw it here) wears a jeans that is so extremely shortened that you can see her slip under it when she only bends a bit. A bit more and the slim slip gives almost a view on her labia ... Imagine that directly (did not happen here) in front of your eyes. That's a sexual assault, right? But at home, behind protective walls, fine with lingerie or fully naked.

I'm talking here not only about some words (shell shock, ...) that make people feel uncomfortable, but also some other issues. For my understanding, those "slut walks" are there to shame us heterosexual men feeling arousal when we see such above what is actually completely natural with us.

So how can we solve these issues? Respecting and accepting each other, sure! Respect is being earned and can never be demanded. It also not a one-way road. The (in)famous hashtag #metoo was not really helping here, only making men the perpetrator and women victims. It did raise awareness but turned out quickly (check out #GirlsAskGuys or #Quora for examples) into shaming (heterosexual) men. Now even air-cons are bad for them. My girlfriend doesn't do such things. I would have noticed as I let her know what I write here. So she can read about it.

@otto Northrhine-Westphalia.

@otto Bavaria has nice looking areas. But also the U.S.A. and Canada have nice areas.

@otto Have you checked this? https://f.haeder.net/display/adbba6c6-1860-3738-948b-9c9758087001

@otto Should work now, the redir thing is internal-only.

@otto Ah, #Diaspora doesn't receive and/or process edits of comments: https://f.haeder.net/display/adbba6c6-1860-3738-948b-9c9758087001

@ottohttps://invidio.us/watch?v=VjVeWvdogMw - at "04:04 - Gays in military"