The online magazine "Gomag" has publish in January #2019 an article with that said title ...

Lesbians, this is a HUGE undertaking.

Yes, getting a "No, I'm not interested in you.", is a really HUGE undertaking. If I would be the editor, I need to be fired, not because of I'm a man and being #heterosexual but because of the inaccuracy of this article.

1) How do I get over someone who is good in bed? And 2) I am falling for a straight girl… what the hell do I do?

Let me answer this for you:
1) We all started as rookies in anything, completely "untrained". So why should a straight woman (they thank you for that!) be better in bed than a lesbian?
2) Move on, straight (heterosexual) women are into us men and our penises and not you being a woman and having a vagina.

Second of all, I want to let you know that I, in my core, sorely disapprove of the concept of the straight girl crush. I think you’re setting yourself up for heartbreak, and I question why you feel the need to chase after a woman who claims not to be into other women. A lot of the straight girl crush, I believe, stems from our ugly egos.

Yes, true. You get yourself a heartbreak, move on. And straight people are born that way, we don't have to claim it, okay?

I understand that a million different things can be true at once and that nothing in this world is black and white, especially sexuality. Sometimes, despite our better judgment, we fall for flawed people. Sometimes "straight" women aren’t really straight; they just haven’t come to terms with their own sexuality. Sometimes sexuality is fluid. Sometimes love is simply love. And sometimes you just need to go for something, even if you know you’re probably going to end up wounded.

That's true, that there is bisexuality, I get the point. But homosexuality/heterosexuality is black and white. Straight women find penises attractive, not lesbian vaginas, straight men find vaginas attractive while gays penises. It isn't that hard to understand. And yes, some "straight" women need to hold their homosexuality back or else they face jail-time but that's only true for most non-Western countries, never be true for Germany or USA or so. The last part I disagree with: You can either be attracted to penises, vaginas, both or none of them. There is no "fluid" here, that e.g. a straight woman (=adult female human, not youth and confused) might try out something homosexual. or how about this, lesbians, try out having being fucked by a man with his penis, maybe even anal ... No, not your thing? So why is "fluid" only a straight thing here as the article suggests?

When someone tells you who they are, believe them. If the words "I’m straight" flew out of her freshly glossed straight girl lips, for all you know, she’s straight. We don’t always flirt with people because we’re truly into them—you know that.

Bottom line: Got rejected for this reason, move on! I reject gays because I'm straight and I'm not into men and penises. Period and end of story. Why make a big drama out of it anyway? I got often rejected for sometimes really shallow reasons and I have moved on.

I do that to everyone. Men, women, non-binary babes—no one is safe. The only people I don’t shamelessly flirt with, ironically, are people I’m actually attracted to. I freeze around people I think are hot, as many of us do.

You call yourself "big lesbian sister" and flirt with men? How can you be so deceptive? You cannot justify your wrong behavior and blame later others for their "bigotry".

Whether she’s straight or not, deep inside her soul, that’s none of your business. If she’s proclaimed to be straight, respect that. It’s very possible that she enjoys the novelty of getting lesbian attention from you, but will never, ever sleep with you (let alone date you). This shit happens all the time! Don’t read too far into it.

Yes, you got that right again. Straight women aren't into lesbians (which are also women) or even don't want to be close to your vagina. Also I don't want to be close to an other man's penis, it creeps me out.

In fact, the best way to tell if she’s f*cking with you or might actually be catching feelings for you… is to pull back. Let her take the lead. Which leads me, seamlessly, into my next point.

Why cannot you read your own words? Let me say this clearly to you: REAL straight women won't come after you! They will thank you for letting them in peace and move away. Live with it.

Just because we’re women doesn’t mean that we’re exempt from being creepy. And it is creepy to go after a girl who claims not to be interested in your gender. Bottom line. Even if she’s all over you. Respect her sexual identity, just as you desire yours to be respected. And if she can’t handle her attraction to you, despite her "heterosexuality," let her come to you.

Yes, that's right again. Respect us/her as much as you want to be respected back.

Here’s the truth: You don’t want to be seen as the girl who coerced the straight girl into being with her, do you? It’s not fun to be that girl, trust me. And you won’t ever be seen as that girl if you let her pursue you. If she tries to kiss you one night after a plethora of cocktails, pull away and ask her: "Aren’t you straight?" And let her explain herself. Give her the freedom to come to this earth-shattering conclusion on her own that she’s attracted to a woman. It’s really important to give people a chance to figure this shit out for themselves without a thirsty lez lingering in the background to pull it out of them.

When people are drunk, then the worst thing is that they wake up in the morning next to someone they don't or barely know and had sexual activities with, they feel very low and "dirty". You basically raped her then as under the influence of a lot alcohol nobody can give you real consent. Do NOT take advantage of people to get from them what you want!

Okay, enough of this article. Some parts it got right, some wrong. Don't be a creep or you loose all trust and reputation. Taking advantage of others isn't right, no matter the circumstances (drunk or not). Don't expect a green light from people who won't want you because of your incompatible sex (male/female) or religion or whatever other reason.

Don't slam on us straights, we are straight, not bisexual or pan, not everyone is bi/pan. Nobody is bigoted only because they don't want to come intimately close to you, move on, don't waste your and our time.

With the help of mysqldumpsql -s at -t 10 -a I found some slow SQL queries the current develop code causes:
SELECT `id` FROM `contact` WHERE (`network` IN ('dfrn', 'dspr', 'stat', 'apub', 'zot!', 'unkn') AND `self` = 0 AND `id` IN (SELECT `cid` FROM `post-tag` WHERE `cid` = `contact`.`id`) AND (`last-update` < '2022-06-24 18:39:07' OR (NOT `failed` AND `last-update` < '2022-07-17 18:39:07'))) LIMIT 100
This query took over 70 seconds which is WAY to slow (as it also keeps the FPM child process busy and unable to process another request).
An EXPLAIN gives me following extra information:
- table contact: Using index condition; Using where
- table post-tag: Using index; FirstMatch(contact)

It looks already optimized but is still so slow. Another one I came across:

SELECT `account_type`, COUNT(*) AS `count`
FROM `profile` p
JOIN `server` s ON s.`id` = p.`server_id` AND s.`available` AND NOT s.`hidden`
WHERE p.`available` AND NOT p.`hidden` AND p.`region` LIKE 'foo%'
GROUP BY p.`account_type`
ORDER BY `count` DESC

deb http://deb.devuan.org/merged chimaera main
deb http://deb.devuan.org/merged chimaera-updates main
deb http://deb.devuan.org/merged chimaera-security main
#deb http://deb.devuan.org/merged chimaera-backports main

I guess #LaLinea needs no introduction but in case you don't know it:

And I have watched it with my 6 years old daughter and she laughed a lot about it.